What Have You Defined Control As?

Most people believe that being out of control means being uncontrolled — reckless, drunk-on-power, dangerous, or somehow wrong.Uncontrolled, in the collective story we’ve all inherited, is that person screaming, “YOU CAN’T CONTROL ME!” while knocking over chairs at a formal dinner.

Is that actually what out of control is?

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What Is Control, Really?

Have you ever been told (or energetically shown) that control is bad, you’re not alone.

Maybe it came from your family.

Maybe society.

Maybe your third-grade teacher who insisted you color inside the lines.

If someone is telling you that control is bad, is that control? Yes.

We’ve defined control as domination. Manipulation. Force.

But is that actually control?

What Have You Defined as Out of Control That Isn’t?

Have you been operating on a totally backwards definition?

Like, completely upside-down, inside-out, and probably stolen from someone else’s weird defense mechanisms?

Being Control Is Out of Control

The interesting thing is that Being control is actually out of control.

What?

Yeah. Being control isn’t being rigid.

It’s spacious. Aware. Fluid. Unpredictable.

It’s the willingness to choose, to change, to pivot and not function from everyone else’s idea of what you should be.

If that feels light for you, awesome.If it doesn’t? That’s cool too. Take what works for you, leave what doesn’t.

I’m not asking you to swallow dogma. I’m not trying to control you. Catch that?

A Lot-O’-Magic

Want to play with some energy? Try this:

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries and possibilities can you and your body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure and significance, out of linearity and out of concentricities for all eternity? Everything that doesn’t allow that times a godzillion, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right and Wrong. Good and Bad. POD and POC. All Nine. Shorts, Boys, POVADs and Beyonds.

Here’s the Invitation

If you’d like to truly be out of control, try running that process 30 times a day for the next 30 days.

• Say it out loud.

• Whisper it in your head.

• Record it in an app and let it loop while you make breakfast, walk the dog, or float in the bath.

  
  

Keep count — or don’t.

You might lose track halfway through and laugh,

“Wait… is this me being out of control?”

Or maybe it’s just you being.

Either way, cool.

Let it come up. Let it move. Let it go.

You don’t have to hold on to any of it.

Unless you want to, of course. No rules here.

And hey, if you’re like,“I’m so not out of control yet — I need to loop this sh*t all day long!”— do it.

Why not?

You’re not wrong.

So… What Have You Defined Control As?

That’s the question.

Because if being out of control is actually the freedom to choose, to change, and to be…

Then maybe control — real control — is the willingness to be the space that doesn’t allow anyone or anything to control you (including you) and the dominance to create a sustainable future on this planet.

No conclusion.

No force.

No fixed point.

Just… you.

Try it.

Do your 30.

Then go out and BE.

If this landed for you, share it. Play with it. Be weird. Be free.

What would happen if you were out of control… what else is possible?